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May 31, 2021
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Juliya Smith

How To Motivate Your Teenager To Do Better In School?

During teenage, children change a lot, both physically and mentally. It is the most sensitive stage of their life, and parents need to be extremely cautious while handling teenagers. Handling teenagers are the most challenging job one could ever have. Many parents struggle to handle their teenagers in the right way.

Teenage is such a period in life where they can easily be demotivated or feel inferior to themselves. When teenagers see children of their age doing better than them, they start to feel insecure about themselves.

Due to several changes going on in their life teenagers start to feel lazy and try to avoid everyone around them and all their works especially academic works. Teenagers can get distracted by the various factors, and sometimes they even forget goals they set when they were tweens.

You can see during teenage; usually, teenagers academic score get low. They get distracted by lots of factors and start to neglect their studies.

One of the reasons for teenagers to have a lack of motivation in school activities is fear of failure. During teenage, children feel they are perfect and know everything. And if they fail once, they do not like to retry and also start to feel demotivated.

The next thing that has affected teen’s motivation is intrinsic motivation. Teenagers want to do things that will make other people happy and forget about their internal happiness. They are into extrinsic motivation more. They will be dependent on others to get motivated.

Apart from that, some other things that impact motivating your teenager are lack of proper diet, depression, lack of sleep, and so on.

14 Ways To Motivate Your Teens To Do Better In School

Do Not Keep Nagging Your Kids To Study

One common mistake that teenagers do to improve their academic performance is continuously nagging children to study. Parents feel that nagging children to study all the time will motivate teenagers to perform well.

But it is wrong to do as telling the same thing repeatedly will discourage children from doing it.

For instance, constantly telling your children things like “when I was of your age” or “Look, your friend has got A in all subjects” will reduce their motivation.

Teenagers will start to take all your words as a comparison. They will start to feel incompetent about themselves.

Instead of making them motivated, nagging children about the same thing will make them rebellious. They will start to take every word of yours’ as an attack on them.

Some parents even give a long lecture to their kids from time to time. Listening to your lecture over and gaining will tire your kids; they will not be motivated at all; instead, they start to copy your action.

Set Routine For Children

Routines are essential for anyone to keep on track and disciplined. Making a routine will manage your teen’s life much easier.

Teenagers are highly active and want to participate in every activity they have in their school or even outside the school. It would be best if you did not stop your child from participating in activities they want.

Try to set a limit on their Internet time. But it would be best if you made sure that your children are giving equal importance to their school works. This is the reason for you to make a routine for your kids.

For instance, if your child wants to go to music class, then you can set routines like music class from 5 to 6 PM and study time from 8 to 10 PM.”

Without making a routine, it can be difficult for you to manage your child’s daily activities. By making a routine, you should not yell at your kids to do this and do that. You need to make a routine that your kids can follow comfortably and is within their comfort zone.

However, sometimes routine might not work if your kids do not follow them correctly. Hence, you should make sure that your child is following their routine correctly.

Help Them to Break Bigger Goal into Smaller Pieces

Teenagers dream bigger goals at a minimum age. It is such a time when children get confused regarding what they want to do in the future.

It would help if you treated your child as your friend, listen to what they want, and help them achieve their goal.

Sometimes teenagers can get stressed about their goals; they might get overwhelmed about their goals.

Hence, you need to help your child with their goal by managing goals in the most manageable way. For that, you can break your child’s goals into smaller goals. By breaking goals into smaller goals will helps children to achieve their goals faster.

For instance, if your child wants to improve their school performance and set goals to get A in all their subject. Then you can set smaller goals like improving scores in the subjects they find more challenging, performing tests regularly, limiting their screen time, and so on.

Set Study Spot For Your Kids

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If you allow your teen, they can study anywhere they like. They can even complete their homework in front of their screen. But have you wonder how effective it is to work-study in front of a screen or around noises. Will, it helps to improve their school performance?

Well, it is not suitable for teenagers to work or study from anywhere they like. They can quickly get distracted, and even though they complete their work, they may not fully remember or understand the subject matter they are working on.

Therefore, you need to set a study spot for your teens that will help them focus on their studies. While setting a study spot for your teen, make sure it is entirely noise-free, and not even their siblings are studying around.

You can even set your work area or office space around your child’s study space so that they can seek help from you whenever they are having problems.

Participate With Them

Teens love when their parents participate with them in any activities they are interested in doing. Parents’ involvement in any activities of theirs will motivate teens to do better. Similarly, when you get involved in your kid’s academic work, they will find it exciting and want to work hard.

It would be best if you took an interest in their school and academic life. Try to have frequent conversations about their school works, how it is going, where the following tests are, the result of the previous test, and so on. It would be best to have a proper conversation about their study more than interrogating them about their studies.

Also, it would help if you were around them when they are doing their homework. This will ensure that you are available to them to solve any problem they have with their studies.

One thing that you need to be sure of is do not to overdo it. By this, it means do not always talk about their studies; this will start to make your teen monotonous about their studies.

Praise and Reward For Their Effort More Than Result

One important thing that you need to teach your kids about it hardwood matters more than results. To teach your kids about the importance of hard work and respect hard work, you can reward or praise them every time they work hard.

When you keep praising and rewarding your kids for their hard work regardless of their result, they will never stop their hard work. Also, another reason you praise your kid’s hard work is that teens can get upset when they cannot get the result even though they worked hard. By praising them, they will get motivated to work hard in the future as well.

For instance, if your child worked hard to get an “A” in all subjects, but he could not, then they can get up. To cheer up your teen and make them do better in the future, get them some rewards and talk about how you recognize their hard work, which will motivate your child.

Tell Them It’s Ok To Make Mistake

Mistakes are something that everyone is afraid of making. Teenagers especially think they know everything and they can never and ever make mistakes, which is wrong.

Anyone can make a mistake, and it is normal to make a mistake, but you need to accept the mistake you have made. It would be best if you taught your teen there is nothing wrong with making mistakes.

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For students, they need to make mistakes and learn from them. Without learning about their mistake, they cannot improve their performance.

It is your responsibility to point out your child’s mistakes and teach them how to rectify their mistakes.

For instance, if your kids fail in the exam and want to improve their marks. Then instead of scolding them and punishing them, tell them mistakes happen, and they can improve their mistakes.

When your teens stop worrying about making mistakes, they can easily take opportunities in their ways. Don’t be hard on yourself or your teens. Also, they will not get discouraged by their failure.

Use Reinforcement Technique

There is usually debate on rewarding children for their excellent performance. Many parents think not to reward children despite their better school performance. At the same time, others believe that rewarding will motivates the child to do better in the future.

According to me, it is essential for you to to use reinforcement technique to motivate your teenager to do better in school.

While using reward and reinforcement techniques to improve your child’s academic performance, do not use expensive rewards. This can make your child Greddy.

For small kids, reinforcement techniques like high five, hugging, and other emotional technique can work. While for teens, you can offer some extra screen time if they do well in their studies.

Setting such rewards will helps your teen to do their work in a better way and grab the reward.

One thing that you need to make sure of is that you do not ever overset rewards. If you do so, children will do their work to get a reward, not gain knowledge.

Meet Your Children’s Teacher

If you have a naughty teen or hide you about their school works, you better contact their teachers. In such cases, you must make your children’s teachers your ally.

When your teens are at home, you can keep an eye on them all the time, but you don’t know what they are up to when they are at school. Therefore to know your kids’ activities in school, you should make a good relation with your kids’ teachers.

To help your teenager’s school performance, you can plan with their teachers and share ideas with them.

If your child has some problem, you can even share it with their teachers and seek help from them. Teachers can help you a lot in improving your child’s school performance.

Take Help from Outside

Aside from taking help from teachers, you can even ask help from your student’s tutors if they have, or some senior students who they look up to.

Sometimes, either due to behavior issues, or your child might not understand all topics they have been taught in their school. Your child might need extra help for their studies. For this reason, you may have to hire a tutor for your child.

You can get the help of tutors to motivate your child to do better. Sometimes, you can even get help from senior students who can help your children to do better.

You children can get help from seniors regarding what to study and how they perform in the class, which are the better subjects they can take in the class. Your child feels they can easily relate to their senior. Hence, they listen to their seniors the most.

Do Not Set Future Goal For Them Without Their Consent

Setting goals for your child does not mean you are motivating your teen to do better in school. You need to understand your child’s feelings, know what they want to be or do in the future and let them be what they want to be.

Even if your teen does not know what they want to do, you should not force them to decide as soon as they can. Thinking about the future can be overwhelming for children.

Apart from asking your children to focus on their studies, it would be best if you also encouraged them to participate in other school activities.

You will not get motivated teenagers just by continuously ranting about their future. Instead, your teen will start to get anxious and stress about not setting goals.

Setting goals for your children by yourself is like forcing them to do things that they might not even be interested in doing.

Provide a Sense of Freedom

If you want motivated kids who are willing to do better in school, then you should provide them a sense of control in their life. Having control over your teenagers will leave your kids will very little motivation within them.

If you do not allow your kids to have a sense of freedom or keep involving yourself in their life, they will depend on you forever.

For instance, if you keep picking and dropping your child at school, even if they can go on their own, they will always seek your help to go to school or come home.

Likewise, when you allow your child to choose subjects in their school as their wish then, they can perform better in their school. They have selected the subject on their own as per their interest and will always be willing to study.

It would help if you did not always control your child; it is better to provide some freedom in their life as they grow up.

Try To Make Learning Fun

You cannot deny that learning can be pretty dull, especially if teens are not interested in their academic activities. Your kids will not just be motivated by some of your inspirational words. To motivate your teen to do better, you should try to make learning fun.

First of all, you should find out what subject and activities your teens are interested in. When you encourage your child to do what they are interested in, learning gets fun automatically.

Don’t force your teens to learn things that you find exciting and fun as all the people do not enjoy the same thing.

Furthermore, to make learning fun, you can participate with your teens to get excited to do things with you.

Listen To Your Children

As mentioned earlier, during teenage, teens change mentally and physically. It is such a time where teens can feel that no one is interested in them. They can feel lonely and all alone. This is the most sensitive time. Hence, you need to be around your teen during this phase of your teen life.

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During this phase, your teen can get distracted from their studies, so you need to listen to them about why they are getting distracted. You should actively listen to the problems they are facing and try to find out solutions.

While listening to your teen, try not to interrupt and not make any judgment without knowing their point of view.

When your teen feels that you are around them and available to listen to every problem of theirs, they will be motivated to do what they want to do. They will have less fear of getting into any trouble or not understanding subject matters.

Conclusion

Summing up, dealing with teens is never easy. It can be difficult for parents to motivate their teens to do better in their schools. In the course of motivating your child, you should not overwhelm them.

I hope after reading this article you have got the basic idea to motivate your teenagers to do better in school. If you have some more ideas, please feel free to write them in the comment section below.


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Juliya Smith

Hello, I am Juliya a mother of 2 children and a content editor at fenced.ai where I share parenting tips and guides on how to keep your child safe online.